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Grief marks an anniversary: One door opens, another shuts

July 1, 2016 by Kira Lerner

mom_meIt was thirty years ago today–July 1, 1986–when I woke up to the doorbell ringing.

7:30ish in the morning, as I recall, on a Tuesday. I was annoyed as hell. I’m a night person, always have been, and no one should be bugging me at that hour. I was 19, six weeks to go until I hit 20. I’d stayed at home that summer, making the astonishingly bad decision to accept my friend’s request to be music director of what was the second worst show I’d ever been involved with.

(And not just because it was the worst summer I had, but seriously, “They’re Playing Our Song” is just an awful show. Still, “The Good Doctor” wins out for a truly execrable lack of anything to recommend it. Interestingly, I only just now realized that they’re both Neil Simon. And I like the guy!)

But anyway, the badness of the decision had nothing to do with the quality of the show. What I should have been doing was traveling with the rest of my family–my sisters, father and mother–to the Bahamas. Their destination was an experimental cancer treatment clinic, in what I was too blinkered and naïve to realize was a last-ditch effort to save my mother’s life. Continue reading “Grief marks an anniversary: One door opens, another shuts” »

Filed Under: Reminiscing Tagged With: family, Great Neck, jessica, karen, kim, mom, nostalgia, pop, who i am now, who i was then

The Perils of Unsocial Media

December 26, 2013 by Kira Lerner

Social media sites are a… mixed bag. On the one hand, they can bring about some connections, and reconnections, between people who’d otherwise never have been in touch, and these ties are to be cherished and their bonds strengthened. On the other… some connections you wish had been permanently severed long ago. Continue reading “The Perils of Unsocial Media” »

Filed Under: Reminiscing Tagged With: bullying, facebook, Great Neck, high school, kim, neuroses, self esteem, who i am now, who i was then

A Family’s Loss

July 27, 2013 by Kira Lerner

Fifty years ago, July 27, 1963, a family was lost.

The Lerner family consisted of a vibrant, playful mother; a confident and charismatic father; a six-year-old girl who was already filled with a love of music and performing for an audience; and a ten-year-old boy—the beloved firstborn son, the bright if sometimes hard-to-teach student, the prankster but loving older brother, the leader of his generation of cousins, the rough-and-tumble athlete.

Pop and Kenny.

Pop and Kenny.

The foursome lived in East Meadow, a Long Island town that was home to families who weren’t wealthy but were certainly more comfortable than their parents had been. The mother and father’s parents were all immigrant Jews who had known dire conditions both in American and in their various native Eastern European homes. But the mother and father were 1st generation Americans, married in 1950 right in the center of the 20th century, where enough work, talent and hope allegedly guaranteed you a prosperous and gilded future.

The Lerners were on track to fulfill this promise. Home movies from this time show softball games, picnics, the daughter dancing and pirouetting and preening for the camera, the mother smiling with pride and love, the father pulling amusing faces and coaching the various games, the boy running and playing and laughing because he was happy and healthy and likely felt as immortal as most loved, cared-for, and care-free children do. Continue reading “A Family’s Loss” »

Filed Under: Reminiscing Tagged With: family, karen, kenny, kim, mom, nostalgia, pop

For David Janower: Don’t wait. Tell them.

March 11, 2013 by Kira Lerner

On Saturday I learned that David Griggs-Janower, the professor with whom I most associate my college years—indeed, the professor most responsible for my remaining somewhat engaged and motivated at school, at least enough to graduate—is, by a sudden, cruel and horrific concatenation of medical events, gravely ill and on life support.

He is only sixty.

I found this out by chance. I’m not in touch with anyone from my college days, not really. And I don’t log on to Facebook every day, and I don’t really interact with it because I don’t have much to share. But yesterday I did, and happened to notice one close friend from college and one former college acquaintance had shared a photo of a candle. The close friend is Jessica, who—along with Dr. Janower (as I knew him then, prior to his marriage)—are pretty much the only reasons I graduated.

The candleCurious, I clicked on the person who’d originally shared this candle image, and I saw a couple of others who’d done the same thing. All of them had one thing in common: Albany Pro Musica, a choral group founded by Dr. Griggs-Janower. Another thing they had in common: no one was saying a bloody thing along with the candle—just the photo. In retrospect I realize this was probably to preserve the family’s privacy and perhaps also because words may have just felt wrong, somehow. But it made it damn frustrating for someone on the periphery to know what was going on.

So I immediately messaged Jessica and tentatively asked her about the candle photo, whether someone involved with APM was ill. Yeah: “someone.” I think that’s how I put it. Even in a message, my mind didn’t want to take the inevitable journey, didn’t want to make the obvious connection. Not yet. But when Jessica didn’t answer me directly, but instead asked for my phone number and said she’d call me, I knew. She wouldn’t need to speak to me in person about anyone else related to this group. I was never in APM and had no real connection to it except Jessica and, of course, its founder/conductor.

David Griggs-Janower

David Griggs-Janower. Husband to Paige, dad to Katy and Michael, mentor to countless singers and students of all ages

I kept my phone by my side as I paced around my apartment waiting for Jessica’s call. Then it came, and after she apologized for not being in touch for a while—that’s Jessica’s way, apologizing, even though I’m just as guilty for not staying in touch if not more so—she broke down and told me about David. Aka DJ, or Dr. Janower, as I still think of him, though I’m now older than he was when he first taught me nearly thirty years ago.

Time basically stopped when Jessica gave me the news. Not just in the way that it stops whenever you’re given bad news, where your body freezes and your mind shuts out everything but the person’s voice telling you these awful things. But the whole current status of my life winked out. I wasn’t 46 anymore. I was 18. Or 19, or 20 or 21 or 22… Any of the years where DJ was part of my life, and his guidance and kindness made me feel like a human being instead of a void of worthlessness. All I could think was:

I wish I’d told him.

* * *
Continue reading “For David Janower: Don’t wait. Tell them.” »

Filed Under: Reminiscing Tagged With: albany, chorale, college, david janower, family, jessica, mom, music, singing

The Food Chain: My mom, cooking, and living beneath one’s supposed means

October 30, 2012 by Kira Lerner

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